Relapse is a symptom of the problem, not the actual problem.
If your loved-one’s addiction alcoholism frustrates you, you are not alone. It is not possible for you to understand what thoughts are running through the mind of your alcoholic or drug addict. It is not possible for you to know what he is feeling. Have you admitted to yourself that you cannot control his problem without outside help? Do you understand that you did not cause his problem? If your loved-one could solve his problem by himself, he would have already solved it. If you could solve his problem without outside help, you would have solved it. Are ready to ask for help?
Some believe that relapse is a part of the recovery process. It can be, but it does not have to be. Relapse is a symptom of the problem. Most of our clients know how to get clean and sober by themselves before they arrive here. They have gotten themselves clean and sober many times before. But they don’t know how to stay clean and sober. They don’t arrive at our door at the top of a winning streak. They will not tell you (in most cases) but deep in their subconscious, many of our clients arrive here with an intricate plan to drink and use again successfully without suffering the consequences. Here at Solutions Retreat, we work well with clients with that type of thinking and we know how to deal with it.
Under-Estimating the POWER of alcoholism and addiction.
Most people under-estimate the depth and size of their loved-one’s alcoholism and addiction problem. There is no other way to say it. We believe this is the biggest factor in relapse. Once an individual crosses the invisible line and becomes an alcoholic or addict, they are always an alcoholic or addict. In recovery they say that a pickle cannot change back to a cucumber; a butterfly cannot change back to a caterpillar; and an addict cannot change back to a “normal” person. But an alcoholic or addict in recovery can live drug and alcohol free for the rest of their life. They can live a life that is happier and fuller than the life of a “normal” person. And under-estimating alcoholism and addiction is most common in the first 12 months of recovery. So now is the time for you to take action. Complete the form on the right (or at the bottom of this page) with your questions.
The addict’s or alcoholic’s cravings for drugs or alcohol often go dormant for a time and then reappear, stronger than ever before, seemingly out of nowhere, and these cravings are overwhelming. They can be so overwhelming that they cannot be described to a “normal” person with words. When you ask an addict or alcoholic that has relapsed about what happened, many time times they say something like: “I don’t know. I just looked down and noticed that I had the needle in my arm or the drink in my hand again”. – There is another way to define the problem: They underestimated the POWER of alcoholism and addiction.
An old self-destructive delusion reappears or a new self-destructive delusion creates itself. Often when an individual first comes to our treatment center, they have established a pattern of relapse. Relapse is a symptom of the problem. The problem needs to dealt with before they leave our treatment center and we do that.
Lectures don’t work.
If lecture would have gotten your loved one clean and sober, he would have gotten clean and sober a long time ago. Group therapy for men in early recovery usually turn into a lecture by the therapist. Given this fact, why do most treatment centers use a lecture format? Very simple. The lecture format (including group therapy) is very profitable for the treatment center. This format is very documentable. Most people believe that if they could only get the right information to the addict or alcoholic, the addict or alcoholic would change. The addict or alcoholic may look like they are listening. They might even be able to take a test after the lecture and pass the test. But information from a lecture never makes its way past the delusions and deep into the subconscious where it needs to go. We believe that lecture actually can make the situation worse.
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